As Black People We Talk to Each Other We Just Aren’t Dating Each Other

One thing that I have noticed in a lot of the conversations about interracial relationships is that Black Men and Women are finally talking to each other.  This intrigues me, but it also bothers me and upsets me for a few different reasons.  For one this should have been happening all along, and it is only because of the power of the Internet that we are finally hearing each other.  We finally get to see where Blacks that no one wanted to date are coming from and why we should have taken them into consideration all along.  We also learn more about ourselves and how diverse we are as Black people.

The Internet is helping to heal some of the wounds within the Black community, but it is also helping to expose a lot of the animosity, narcissism, and misanthropy that was there all along.  We miss each other as African-Americans, because we see what is happening but we feel helpless to respond to it.  So the real question is why we took each other for granted for so many years and why hadn’t this happened sooner. 

It has been said that we are a race that reacts, but not one that is proactive or a race that is on the offense.  Instead we play defense and fall into line with what should be an easy course to follow.  But how easy is it to follow that course; how easy is it for me to be that stereotypical dude and just neglect and ignore what God has given me.  How easy is it to deny the individuality, and to be a follower instead of a leader to those I come into contact with?

Some of us are going to be different from everyone else. These are the people that we need to be listening to because they are called to lead us out of being on the sidelines, being fodder for entertainment for other races because of our issues and out of being the joke of the human race.  I realized that there is someone for everyone within the same race and that you do not have to go outside of the race.  Now if you want to that is one issue but you do not have to, no one really has to.  Black Women say that they are a majority, but women in general are a majority there are clearly more men than women, of any race, so that argument does not hold water to me.  If you were meant to be with someone else on the outside then it will happen but you cannot force that to happen, you cannot recruit others to join you so that you are not alone in your efforts and you cannot change yourself to make it happen.

Why are Black Women recruiting and encouraging other Black Women in their quest to have interracial relationships?  If those Black Women want to do so they will but a woman has to find her own way.  You cannot find happiness at the advice or the expense of other human beings, regardless of how sincere they may come across.  I have heard that there is an intellectual war being waged against us, a silent war in which everyone is encouraged to neglect their brothers and sisters and go outside of the race.  But this race has been going on every since we came into this country.

If you are genuinely interested in people of other races or cultures why do you concern yourself with what other people think about it and if others are doing what you are doing?  If I wanted to be with a woman of a different race I would, but I wouldn’t spend my days and nights online encouraging other Black Men to date outside of the race.  As independent as Black Women are supposed to be, they seem to waste a lot of their resources telling the world how miserable they are; embarrassing themselves on Nightline and telling people that they cannot find what they want.  Everyone knows why the majority of these women are alone it isn’t news today it never was newsworthy.  Yet we want to sensationalize and yet again, victimize and exploit our Black Women.  There has to be a better way, we may not find it today but at least we are talking again, if not for all of the wrong reasons …

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