Marriage Advice For Women – From a Man

Learning to reconnect with your husband is not really rocket science.  Most marriages are all about making the time and the effort for each other.  Remember to do the small stuff and remember that all it takes are some small changes in your behavior and attitude to make that relationship a success.  

Show your man some love:  Studies have shown that men tend to need affirmation more than women do.  Many men just don’t receive that recognition nearly as much as women do.  A man will tend to describe his marriage as happy if he has been shown that he is loved, appreciated and respected by her.  Men don’t usually get the attention women will from the outside world.  Husband rely on the wife’s for that affirmation.  Flatter you husband once in awhile.  Give him a compliment about how he looks or his taste in clothing.  You’d be surprised how far that will take a couple.  How knows, if he’s receiving the attention, he’ll be more likely to return the favor to you.

Communicate your desires to him:  Your husband isn’t going to be able to mind read you.  No matter how much you wish he could.  It’s just not going to happen.  Most marriages end because there is an expectation from one partner and it isn’t fulfilled.  The frustration comes when neither partner communicates their desires to the other.  You and your husband can overcome that aggravation by telling each other what you expect.  Check in with each other every few weeks and find out what changes you both need to make to eliminate the frustrations.  Most men would gladly participate if they only knew what was expected from them. Go talk with him.

Find time to reconnect with him:  We all know that most happy, successful marriages are ones that find time for themselves.  Many couples strive for that all elusive “date night” that never seems to happen.  If your fortunate to have the time and resources to get away for the evening, good for you guys.  The reality is that with kids, chores, and other responsibilities, getting away is tough.  So strive for the 15 minute timeout.  Find 15 minutes in your day that you and your husband can just sit and talk.  No kids, no phones, and no television.  Just spend the 15 minutes talking about anything, other than the kids, the chores or other responsibilities.  These conversations don’t have to be deep, after all its just 15 minutes.  Talk about things that interest you about him.  Think of it as a first date conversation where your discovering each other.

Remember the good stuff:  Every marriage has some kind of issues.  Be careful not to just focus on the stuff you think can be fixed.  You might end up working on negative and forgetting to enjoy the positive aspects that makes up your marriage.  Stay upbeat about your relationship and you’ll find that your marriage will be a happier one. 

Remember, you don’t have to make big changes in your relationship.  Smaller, significant adjustments can bring more happiness to your marriage.