First Date Tips

The Pressure is On!

So you have been checking out this eye candy for a while or maybe you just met them at a grocery store, school, through a friend, or maybe in a chat room. However, you stumbled upon this person and now they have got up the courage to ask you out on that first date.

THE PRESSURE IS ON as you are excited to go out with this person and something inside of you is telling you that just maybe this can be something that goes beyond the first date.

Now you are really nervous!! What will I wear, where should we go, what is a good time to meet, will they like me, what if I run out of things to say, In short you want to make a good impression, and because you don’t really know this person, you are unsure how to do it.

RelaxTake a Deep Breath and remember this is their first date with you too and they are probably just as nervous and anxious as you are. You want to keep your cool, enjoy yourself and see where if anywhere this first interaction can take you.

Follow these few simple steps and if you hit off you can brace yourself for date # 2,

Keep it Short

Too many times people think that a date didn’t go well if it didn’t last all evening. While you want to enjoy the company of one another you don’t want to take it to the extreme and over do it. After all it is a first date you will both have a few jitters, so save yourself and your date from a little anxiety and keep the length the date at a reasonable time limit.

An hour or two is sufficient time, to have a nice chat and learn about each other. Remember if there’s a connection, date # 2 can last longer.

Simple is Better

Many of you may not want to hear this but, it’s not advisable to spend your first date at an expensive fancy restaurant, a movie, and especially at a bar or club.

Keep in mind you hardly know this person, you may end up liking this person, but on the other hand you may wishing you didn’t take the invite. So keep it simple and inexpensive!! Enjoy getting to know each other over a coffee or a walk in the park or something of that nature that doesn’t take a long time to complete (especially if things aren’t going as well as expected). If all goes well, movies and dinners can be on the agenda further down the road.

Weekday or Weekend?

In the end it boils down to what type of schedule the two of you are on. However, if at all possible make the first date on a WEEKDAY. Most often people think it is better to schedule their first dates on the weekend, but usually this is a time people like to spend their time with the family and friends they already know very well.

It is also much easier to keep the date short, because you have to work in the morning right?

Just because it’s short it’s not a therapy session

Be sure to approach the date with a positive attitude and leave all negativity behind. You are probably thinking you are positive, you are excited to go on this date.

What is meant by this is, keep the conversation light. Yes, you want to get to know one another, however you don’t want to talk about past relationships or how bad things are going at work, and how you are so mad at your best friend.

You want to leave a good impression, the last thing you want is for your date to thing that you are full of negativity. We all have our days and our issues that we are going through, that’s all part of life, but on a first date, STOP and REWIND if you start to feel your conversation sounding like a therapy session. You will thank yourself later when you get asked out again by this person.

Don’t do or say something you don’t mean

When the date is coming to an end, if you know you are not interested, please don’t give the person the impression that you will call them in an hour or tomorrow or that you will like to see them again soon if you don’t mean it.

Please don’t be rude about it, I’m not at all saying to shoot this person down, just let them know it was nice meeting them. nine out of ten times, people are too nervous on a first date to try to set up the next date on the spot. Give yourselves, sometime to go home and think about the evening and if you would like to see this person again.

Usually if there is a connection you will know it, and if you are interested let them know that you enjoyed your evening, and that it will be nice to do it again sometime. If you leave it open like that there is no pressure as to when or where, or that it will even happen, but you are displaying an interest without adding pressure.

Overall, a first date should be treated as a meeting and greeting with no high expectations. It is a chance to get to know someone enough to know if you would like to see them again. It should be kept short, simple and hopefully on a weekday. it’s not a time to vent about all of the horrible things that have been going on in your life and it’s simply a time to get to know one another and hopefully get invited on another date.